“Never give advice to someone unless they ask, or they are dying. Who do you think you are that you know what’s best for someone else?” I heard this over a decade ago from a gentleman sharing his experience. His words stuck with me that day. They made me painfully aware of this selfish action I liked to indulge in.
Keeping my mouth shut has gotten much easier with practice. I have the toughest time doing it with those I am closest to. The urge to spew my opinion of what they should be doing is just my ego hard at work being driven by judgment, fear, and control. And my ego can still win today.
Who am I to play God?
My goal is to meet people where they are at by holding space for them. For me, this means I sit and listen no matter how uncomfortable I may get. They want to be heard. They want to be loved. They want to be understood. And they are going to do what they want anyway 😄
Side note: a big shout out to my dear friends who stayed by my side when I made decisions that you knew would turn out to be tough lessons for me. I have become the woman I am today because of those mistakes. Thank you for honoring my journey.